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Postnatal Depression: Understanding Your Feelings and Seeking Support
Around 1 in 10 mothers experience postnatal depression, and for many, it goes unrecognised for months. I'm Heather, a trauma-informed psychotherapist working with expat and international mothers in Marbella and online, and this is the guide I wish more of my clients had found sooner. Postnatal depression isn't a character flaw or a sign that you're failing at motherhood. It's a common, well-understood, and treatable condition. This guide covers what it actually is, how it dif
1 hour ago9 min read


Am I Having an Identity Crisis? A Guide for Anyone Feeling Lost Since Moving Abroad
Feeling like a stranger to yourself since the move? Here's what an identity crisis actually is, why life abroad brings it on, and when to get support.
5 days ago6 min read


Moderate Depression: Understanding Its Impact and Treatment
Moderate depression is a common mental health issue that affects many individuals. It presents symptoms that can disrupt daily life, including persistent low mood, changes in appetite, and fatigue. This condition falls between mild and severe depression in terms of intensity. Understanding its signs, causes, and approaches to support can be beneficial for those navigating these challenges. Understanding Moderate Depression Moderate depression presents a complex emotional la
Feb 413 min read


Anhedonia: Understanding the Loss of Pleasure
Anhedonia is the inability to experience pleasure from activities that are typically enjoyable. It can affect motivation and emotional responses, making daily life challenging for those experiencing it. This article explores the different types and dimensions of anhedonia, its relationship with various mental disorders, and how it impacts well-being as people age. It also highlights the importance of understanding this condition to facilitate personal recovery and healing.
Feb 39 min read


If They Wanted To, They Would? Why This Viral Phrase Isn’t Always the Closure You Think It Is
By Heather Smith- Psychotherapist, Marbella Spain It begins in a quiet moment. You’re alone, phone in hand, scrolling through messages that never came. You replay the warmth of a conversation that felt like it meant something. The connection was real…or so you thought. And now, there’s silence. In that void, a familiar phrase arrives. From a friend. From a meme. From the depths of your own weary self-protection: “If they wanted to, they would.” It’s become a cultural mantra,
Nov 24, 20257 min read


CBT for Anxiety and Depression: A Comprehensive Guide
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a widely recognized supportive approach for individuals navigating the challenges of anxiety and depression. Its methodology centers on the intricate connections between thoughts, emotions, and behaviours, providing practical strategies to foster well-being and enhance emotional regulation. This guide offers a deep dive into the principles of CBT, its core techniques, and its role within the broader landscape of mental health support. It
Nov 12, 202511 min read


What It’s Like to Heal with Heather: Understanding Humanistic Therapy
Clients and peers often ask me, “What’s therapy like with you? What kind of techniques do you use? Which psychologists or psychotherapists have influenced your style?” The truth is, my approach can’t be captured by a single technique or label. I consider myself a humanistic therapist, and while that might sound like a textbook term, what it really means is simple: I believe you already hold the potential to heal, and my job is to help you reconnect with it. Let me explain wha
Oct 20, 20254 min read


Understanding Anticipatory Grief: When Loss Comes Before It Happens
Many of us know what grief feels like when someone we love is gone, the silence, the absence, the ache that fills the room. But what about the grief that comes before the loss? The sadness that creeps in while the people, pets, or dreams we hold close are still with us? This is called anticipatory grief. Although it is less widely discussed, it is something I see often in my practice as a psychotherapist. What Is Anticipatory Grief? Anticipatory grief is the emotional respons
Sep 23, 20254 min read


Anxiety Symptoms in Adolescence: Understanding and Managing Them
Anxiety symptoms in adolescence are increasingly common and can significantly impact a teenager's daily life. Understanding these symptoms is crucial for parents, educators, and caregivers to provide appropriate support. Adolescents may experience various emotional, behavioral, and physical signs of anxiety. Early recognition and intervention can help improve outcomes and promote healthier coping strategies for young people facing these challenges. Understanding Anxiety Disor
Aug 29, 202512 min read


Signs Your Body is Releasing Trauma: Key Indicators for Healing
Trauma affects both the mind and body, often leading to physical and emotional signs. Understanding these signs is essential for recognizing when the body is releasing stored trauma. Various sensations, emotional expressions, and behavioral changes can indicate this release. Identifying these signs can aid individuals in their healing journey and promote a better understanding of their experiences. Understanding Trauma and Its Impact The experience of trauma profoundly affect
Jul 30, 20259 min read
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