By Heather Smith- Psychotherapist, Marbella Spain It begins in a quiet moment. You’re alone, phone in hand, scrolling through messages that never came. You replay the warmth of a conversation that felt like it meant something. The connection was real…or so you thought. And now, there’s silence. In that void, a familiar phrase arrives. From a friend. From a meme. From the depths of your own weary self-protection: “If they wanted to, they would.” It’s become a cultural mantra,